The 5 Negative Effects of the Habit of Judging Others

Why do we judge, evaluate, and give an opinion on the life of others?

Most of the judgment does not even reach them.

Then, why do we engage in the process?

After giving it significant thought, I have concluded that we judge to superimpose our character traits on the other.

Whenever we judge, we indirectly glorify our way of doing things. Through this process, our mind tries to establish a delusional supremacy over others.

The more we judge the other, the more our mind finds peace because we start to believe that our ways and methods are the best.

What are the 5 negative effects of this habit?

1. This kind of nature blocks all the learning because we stop being receptive towards better ways of doing things (that we can learn from others).

2. It massages our ego. It silently alters our original Sanskars, making us more arrogant.

3. This habit is a cause of unhappiness because when you are sure your way is the best, every other method looks substandard. You smile less and spend a lifetime complaining over how inefficient the other is. Many times, you micromanage, which further pulls you down,

4. You work as if you are carrying the burden of the entire world. You create a delusional space where you are the only one with the foresight and skill.

5. The time you spend judging and evaluating the actions of others is futile.

Let us judge less and accept more. The starting point is to talk less about the lives of other people. If you notice, the more you discuss the other, the more critical you get.

5 Qualities of a Learner

Learning is a life -long pursuit. Everyone who has achieved greatness in life claims that they never cease to learn. In the words of Stephen Covey – “We need to sharpen the saw.”

A good learner drops the ego and continuously unlearns. Because if you don’t break the old patterns, there is no room for new. 

In Sanskrit there is a Shloka that explicitly states the five qualities of a learner. This is ancient transcendental wisdom that has stood the test of time. 

काक चेष्टा, बको ध्यानं, स्वान निद्रा तथैव च ।

अल्पहारी, गृहत्यागी, विद्यार्थी पंच लक्षणं ॥

These 5 qualities apply to a learner at any stage in life. Be it a student, a businessman, a homemaker, a freelancer, an artist, or a sweeper… anyone and everyone who has an innate desire to learn more needs to follow the above. Let us understand each of the above – 

काक चेष्टा means to be curious like a crow. Crows are one of the most intelligent species of birds. They are observant and constantly looking for cues. They have strong problem-solving skills and a sharp memory. 

बको ध्यानं means to be sharp-focused like a heron. These birds are masters in picking their prey in flowing water. They know when to bend and pick and constantly watch the surroundings. 

स्वान निद्रा means nap like a dog. A trait of every dog is that it is alert even in sleep. A learner should always be alert to gain more knowledge. 

अल्पहारी means watch what you feed your mind and body. Read, watch, and listen well and eat healthily. One should never forget that your body is your medium to act.

गृहत्यागी means step out of your comfort zone. Embrace change to learn the unknown. Your comfort zone includes people, places, and habits. 

My grandfather explained to me the real meaning of a student. I go back to it every time I falter or fail. He was a self-made man who worked three shifts to settle in the city of dreams – Mumbai. With minimal education from Jasrapur, Rajasthan, he self-learned and established himself. 

This post is a tribute to him and his teachings. 

I hope you found it helpful. For more content on self-growth and well-being, follow me and keep reading here. 

Viral Mindlessness

Fake reviews

Fake fan base

Fake influence

The game of likes and love, support and object has gone too far. We often find a genuine post on a positive change getting lost in the frenzied world of social media, while a random post highlighting a vague outfit worn by some crazy woman goes viral within hours of release. 

The result is mass- misguiding. People only go by the number of likes, without giving a thought to the value in a post. The next step is where they engage in making posts or recording reels of similar nature in the hope of social media stardom.

Here are a couple of examples – 

When a marketing statement made by a sales girl in her local accent – ‘So beautiful, so elegant, just looking like a wow!’ becomes the talk of the town in public events, social gatherings, and even in formal meets to gather attention.

‘Moye Moye’ for a person who has no words to explain his stupid situation. 

The airport- look highlights comfort with style, pushing many to buy a new outfit for the ideal flight experience. 

The real success of Jamal Kudu – a song from the Bollywood film Animal should be accredited to millions of people performing the hook step and posting videos of the same on social media.

If we look back at each of these viral trends, do they hold any real meaning beyond projecting a vague sense of upbeatness?

And the best part about this cycle is that a small realized group of people, who know this game is flawed, are considered as unaware fools. They are regarded as old school and conservative with zero taste for what is trending.

How do we make it real?

How do we break free from the false influences?

The starting step is to stop showing interest in such posts and to avoid repeating the trend. Soon, you make AI work in your favor, and your social media handles start showing less of these futile trends.

Remember that the information available within the AI gamut is vast, and the intelligence lies in tapping into what holds meaning for you. 

Starting Over…

Starting over…

A thought- provoking 10-point self Q&A on Starting Over in Life.

1. In which activities do I usually start over and over again?

Areas of self -growth like reading, exercise, regulated social media usage, learning and updating.

2. Why does starting over feel irritating?

Because it brings me face to face with my habit of procrastinating, my failures and my poor confidence in self-abilities.

3. Why do I hesitate in starting over?

Because I fear, I may discontinue yet again.

4. Why the delay in starting over?

Because it requires high degree of self- motivation.

5. What do others feel about the process?

No one has time to evaluate except those very close to me.

6. How I deal with my loved ones?

I know that the ones who love me will only respect me more every time I restart.

7. How I deal with the haters?

Think less about them and more about my growth.

8. Why starting over is a good option?

I feel better from the moment I start over.

Not starting is even more suffocating. It feels similar to how a bird feels when it is unable to take off.

9. What is the ideal way to start over?

I don’t rush. I set small targets and make sure I achieve them. I continue and scale up gradually.

10. Why is starting over worth the effort?

Because I understand it is the only way to realize my dreams.

Hope you found 👆 insightful.

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Less is More

Less is more! But staying easy, not busy is hard to accomplish and also looked down upon in the society

How can you appreciate the less ?

Here is a simple way.

Prioritize and keep an easy to-do.

Ideally set 3 top priorities.

These activities should be important, time-consuming and should ideally be based on both personal 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 and professional objectives.

The secret is that once you set the top 3 tasks, you feel easy in your mind because the count is limited. Also rest of the tasks that you take up feel like a bonus and you are glad that you achieved more.

As against that if you have an elaborate to-do 📝 where you assign equal importance to every task, even after ticking off more than 50%, you still feel you have a long way to go.

Keep it short and well-defined. And remember the count is 3.

Trust me, it works!

Be bold and confident, about how you find more in less.

Do not let others define your ideal!

Hope you found this idea 💡 useful?

The Samsung Brand Story

In January 2024, Samsung was in headlines, when it launched its premium S24 model at its biannual event, Galaxy Unpacked. Intrigued by questions like how this great brand was built? Who was the visionary behind it? I thought of reading up on the Samsung brand story.

Did you know that this premium electronic brand, once sold groceries, fish and noodles? Yes, that was the beginning of the current conglomerate.

Setup by Lee Byung-Chul in 1938, the name Samsung is derived from Korean Hancha which means ‘Three Stars’. The founder explained that the name refers to something big, powerful and numerous that remains everlasting and eternal.

From textiles to banks to insurance, fertilizers, cement and others, Samsung started acquiring diverse businesses. For me Samsung was synonymous with electronic gadgets but I was surprised to know that Samsung entered this industry only in 1969, almost three decades after its start.

After the death of its founder, all the units were separated and that’s when Samsung started to focus on the electronics division.

The first Samsung smartphone was released in June 2009 and within 3 years of its introduction, Samsung Electronics became the largest producer of smartphones in the world

Today The Samsung Group contributes more than 15% of South Korea’s GDP and Samsung Electronics Co. Ltd. is one of the most valued brands worldwide.

Every big brand has a unique story, that inspires commoners like us to follow our dreams.

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Steve Jobs explains the secret to focus:

“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I’m actually as proud of the things we haven’t done as the things we have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things.”

Source: Worldwide Developers Conference 1997

It often happens that you read something amazing and your anxiety is relieved instantly.

Since the last few hours I was brooding over something that I did not do. And now as I write this short article, I know the reason?

Simply, because I wanted to spend my energy elsewhere.

We always push ourselves, plead guilty for not having done X,Y,Z…. the list is never ending.

What we don’t see is what we did otherwise.

You don’t party, you get to rest. You drop the argument that you just had, you get involved in the task in hand. You don’t access social media, you have surplus time…

Let us stop feeling bad about the trade offs that we make.

Let us acknowledge the strength that you showed in saying a NO.

Read and Listen – Give wings to your mind

Since a long time, I wanted to explore and write on the topic – ‘The Joy of Reading/Listening.’ Have you ever thought about the transformation that occurs when you are reading through the pages of a book or listening to your favorite podcast, or when you get involved in the myriad voices of blogs and social media?

I am a freelance content developer and reading/listening serves as a precursor to idea generation. I am not associated with any organization and don’t have a team so this habit becomes my window to the world and its developments. What is noticeable is that reading builds your confidence and earns you respect. You will always have this one person in your life whom you consider as knowledgeable because he/she is well read.

An immersive reading/listening experience has the power to transform the reader, depending on the type of content consumed.

Reading/listening to self- help books, a reader transcends from the stage of acquiring knowledge to applying it. The knowledge gets stored in the subconscious which you can recollect to handle specific situations. In the famous book – ‘The Monk who Sold is Ferrari,’ Robin Sharma says that mind should be nurtured like a garden. Often when I find my mind clouded with judgements, his words resonate with me and I start clearing the clutter.

When you read an editorial in a newspaper, you get rich information on an issue with multiple perspectives. It helps you take an informed stand on the topic. For instance, after continuous reading on the topic – ‘Sustainable Economic Development’, I concluded that dedicated investment in building a sustainable production cycle by the corporates across sectors is the only way to a green economy.

Fiction reading/listening, carries you to a different world. You become a part of the book and you sense every emotion that each character feels. You get attached to certain characters while you detest some, just like you do in your day-to-day life. I am currently reading ‘Little Women’ by Louisa May Alcott, and every chapter reminds me of the beauty of a simple life where you work hard and expect less.

Spiritual reading/listening enlightens you and pushes you to see the bigger picture. You develop the ability to keep your calm in adverse situations. I am a regular listener of a podcast on Spotify– ‘Gita for the Young and Restless’, by Jaya Rao. This podcast decodes the intricate Bhagavad Gita lessons. A recent episode on overthinking, made me take a pause to do away with the matters on which I was overthinking unknowingly.

Blogs and social media posts are instrumental in bridging divides. It is easy information available to one and all irrespective of their social or financial status. It also reduces the generation gap when two people of different ages, vibe with the same trend. I remember, my mother was amazed when she heard my daughter who is 12 years sing one of her favorite retro tracks ‘Mere Sapnon ki Rani’, from the 1969 film Aradhna, which the younger one had heard online in a reel.

Requesting you all to identify, what are you gaining from your habits.

Please engage and contribute because Reading/Listening is a promising gateway to a newer better world.

Words are powerful

What is the strongest form of manifestation? It is the words we speak. Words have a direct impact on our reality. If that’s the power that rests in words, we should responsibly choose the right words in our day-to-day life with self and others around us. You may wonder, how can one be so diligent in an activity as routine as speaking? But why don’t you look at it this way, that we have such an easy tool to ensure positivity in our life, something which is completely in our hands, then why be averse?

How can you develop this habit of speaking right –

Pause before you speak – This is an advice that we have read since yesteryears, and still holds true. A pause always gives clarity to your speech. Please do not confuse a pause (of self or others) as a sign of indecisiveness. It is rather a sign of a matured conversational experience.

Hear to listen – An active listener is one who hears the other person to understand not to respond. On the other hand, a passive listener is in a hurry to give his/her take and in the process ends up talking fast and reckless. In a world that reverberates with partisanship towards ideas and equates busyness with your level of success, becoming someone who speaks after completely deciphering what the other is saying is a challenge. But trust me that is one habit that will set you apart from the crowd.

Be mindful of your vocabulary – A lot of our vocabulary is absorbed from the people around us. Consciously distinguish between your words and the words that you have taken from others. Try to use words that are positive and strong because that sets the tone for the hours ahead. It is simple – “I know the structure will bring changes but it will definitely be good for the company.” v/s “I fear that the structural change will make things worse.” If it is inevitable that you have to be a part of the change then the former statement certainly creates better vibrations.

When we speak carefully with self and others, we also create base for decisions that are well thought off. Thoughtful decisions in turn make our personal and professional life better. Before I conclude I would like to address an important point –

A positive spoken word is not used to fool you into something that is not real. It is a systematic tool that if used to your advantage can help you handle adversities efficiently. A good word is a means to tap into the reservoir of your inner strength, your inner potential that probably even you are not aware of.

What makes a good read?

A writer is blessed with an innate ability to put his/her thoughts on paper. Which was the last article that you read, you remember? What made you appreciate the story?

What makes a good read? Is a question that comes to the mind of writers and readers alike. As much as writers wish to write the best, even a reader wishes to read the best.

Address multiple perspectives

After many articles and stories, I have come to a conclusion that every reader interprets the same article differently. From the writer’s side, the meaning is one but the understanding is subjective. An article should thus, address multiple angles of looking at the same topic so that there is something in it for majority of the readers. For instance, – this article has more than 30k views because if you read on, you will find that the author has evaluated a sensitive habit of ACCEPTANCE at multiple levels.

Well researched and fact based

Any article that is based on solid facts will always have a stronger impact. With due respect to the writer’s knowledge on the topic, one should research before publishing an article. Even if one is writing fiction, the background and characters need to be well thought of which means well researched. This article on trends in digital marketing states vital facts to support almost every trend listed.

Should reflect the writer’s character

A genuine article should always reflect the writer’s character and stand on the topic in discussion. Neutrality does not give a direction to the reader. The stance can be subtle or strong but it needs to show in the article. Now this one has a strong take on ChatGPT –

An article should have a good structure and the basic language and grammar has to be in place. An article with appropriate subheads makes it easy for the reader to navigate through the story.

I might sound naïve but the goodness of writing lies in genuine love for your words. As a writer we have the right to seek inspiration and learn as we improvise our own writing skills. But, aping the writing style of the other is unacceptable.

Yes, today articles are written for followers and traffic but a true writer gets a high only if connect supersedes the statistics. Engaging comments and ensuring that you have led your readers to think is a true achievement for a writer. The commercial angle alone will never lead to a masterpiece.

It would be great if you engage and share what you think makes a good read.